You know how that feels? Like I have to wait at your door in uncertain weather while you make up your mind whether to let me in or not. By the time you decide, I may be gone from your blog, gone from your life for good.
Are you going to run a relevancy check on my comment?
Check whether it’s morally, intellectually, politically, and religiously compatible with you?
Will you edit it if it’s off topic?
Will you move it to trash if you don’t like it? If it’s too short or too long?
Chances are you’ll accept it even if it’s off-topic.
If you disagree with what I have to say, you’ll probably reply with a comment of your own.
And you know why? Because the same impulse that made you create your blog makes you accept other voices. If you were the narrow-minded, not-going-to-listen-to-you-because-I’m-right-and-you’re-wrong sort, you probably wouldn’t be blogging in the first place.
Sure, you may be opinionated. You may have values that conflict with mine. It’s precisely because of that that you accept even problematic comments.
If you wouldn’t listen in the first place, you wouldn’t be opinionated or anything. You’d only be a wall that others will throw things at. A wall that time will eventually crack and destroy, like it does to all walls.
So please tell me — why is my comment awaiting moderation?
Wait. I think I know.
It’s probably because of a small setting you may not be aware of. In fact, you may not even know that my comment is awaiting moderation.
Here’s how to change it. Go to Settings > Discussion and follow the instructions.
Welcome me in, will you? You can kick me out, if you don’t like me. But you won’t know whether you like me or not until you get to know me.
PS: How do you feel when a comment of yours is “awaiting moderation?”