Why Being Shy Can Be an Advantage

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After all this growing up, I still am so shy that I often have to make a conscious effort to push words out of me and interact with other people. Continue reading


Social Anxiety and What (Not) to Do About It


When I go out I feel uneasy. A host of invisible eyes seem to be creeping on me. Making eye contact with other people requires a conscious effort, but by now it’s become a discipline, a little act of courage. On good days I even smile.

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When Waiting Becomes Breathing


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There are times in our life when we have to wait, whether we like it or not.

We may be in a line, stuck in traffic, or on a school bench, waiting for a career.

We may be at work, waiting for the day to end so we can return home.

We may be in a hospital, waiting for life to resume.

We may even be waiting for a date under the shadows of unease.

How do we wait?

Do we fiddle with our phone, tap our foot, roll our hair around our finger?

Do we sigh?

Do we look at the person next to us and roll our eyes?

Is that a good way to wait?

Life’s made up of too many moments of waiting for us to be impatient with them.

Sometime it’s good for life to slow down:

Every moment of waiting is an opportunity to relax,

Even in a traffic jam or in a bad sort of line.

In those moments you can remind yourself you are breathing.

It’s like being on a peaceful swing on a warm evening inside you.

When waiting becomes breathing,

breathing makes waiting good.